Valentine’s Day Belongs To The Single Girls: How To Have a Single and Fabulous! Queer Valentines
Written by Leah (Bunny) Overstreet
I’m in love. I will spend this Valentine’s Day basking in the first love I’ve had since I was 19 (over 4 years ago). It feels surreal, especially as someone who is used to planning Valentines around self timer photos in my bedroom, ridiculously themed party plans, and an outfit so good that it makes the universe regret leaving me uncourted. I’ve only had two Valentines before this. The first was the aforementioned last love whom I now refer to exclusively as my“ evil ex” (the title is apt). Back when we were newly in love (I believe just one month into officially dating), we were overly impressed with ourselves and mistakenly convinced we were too cool to make reservations anywhere, or solid plans even. And so we ended up sleeping in too late, trying and failing to have sex, and then shivering in the cold while eating Chipotle. Hilariously we were also quite delusional about the longevity of this relationship; we licked our wounds with the knowledge that this was just the first Valentine’s Day in a lifetime of Valentine’s Days together and that we would have the next year and the next year to make up for this mishap. We didn’t even make it to the end of that year (lol).
The Valentine after that was a situationship that ended promptly at the strike of midnight, during the post Vday sex“ what are we” convo. I would say I average out to a decent amount of single Valentines, especially if we include my teenaged perpetual singledom (I was always into people that were too old for me). As a femme this is one of my favorite holidays and I have always had the most spectacular time being my own Valentine. I’m head over heels in love with the idea of love, but never reserved this annual celebration for romantic partnership.
For as long as I can remember I’ve made it my mission to make the day special and spend it loving myself and my friends. It is because of this that I consider myself to be the expert when it comes to having a Single and Fabulous! Queer Valentine’s Day. There are three rules that I hold true for every single gal Valentine’s Day:
You MUST dress up! It boosts moral and it’s a form of self worship
You must get a little treat for your friends. Especially as queer people, our friends are the loves of our lives. Sure, eventually a romantic partner or two or three might get close, but queer friendship is the most beautiful love out there. Don’t take it for granted. Get them flowers, get them chocolates, take them to dinner (if you can get a reservation lol)
GO CELEBRATE!!! There’s so many deliciously themed events and activities to take advantage of. Valentine’s Day is like an event planner’s dream and so there is no shortage of activities to get into and you know who’s at those activities… Other single people duh! It’s never too late to meet your Valentine, and worse case scenario you have a fabulous night out with your friends!
I would argue that Valentine’s Day belongs to the single girls, the girls who will grab any chance to romanticize life by the G-string. It’s a fem high holy day made for showcasing pretty-fication skills, Gal-entines planning prowess, and thirst trap expertise. It is also the season for the best events and activities. There are so many queer events that I regretfully cannot attend because I will be busy wooing my boygirlfriend in more intimate settings, but I implore you to go in my stead! Bat your eyelashes and kiss a stranger… for me.
If you live in NYC, my Vday gift to you is this short list of Queer Valentines events. Mwah!
